Temerity Jane
14. 01. 2011

You guys! Do you remember this day last year? When I asked you to guess what day it is, but then I didn’t actually let you guess but told you what day it was because, let’s be honest, “guessing” wasn’t one of your best skills last year?

Well, you guys have really worked hard over the last year, and I admit, your guessing skills have gotten much better, but I have Eggos in the toaster and it’s really important that I eat them AS SOON AS POSSIBLE, so I don’t really have time to wait for your (improved! really! gold star for you!) guessing skills. So once again, I’m just going to tell you what day it is.

Hooray! Delurking Day! The day you are LEGALLY OBLIGATED, by Internet law, to stop just peering through the curtains and actually SAY something. Now, ideally, once the ice was broken by your comment today, you’d be free of your shyness shackles and comment with abandon all over the Internet, but this is not an ideal world so I understand if that doesn’t happen. But I do have to inform you that the law says that you have to comment today.

Last year, I did my own Delurking Day Survey, to make coming out of hiding a little bit easier, so that you didn’t have to feel pressure to come up with anything witty or brilliant all on your own. Plus, since the survey is all about you, it takes care of the problem that some non-commenters site – that every time you go to say something, someone else has already said it.

That’s basically the story of this entire blog, but does that stop me? NO!

Anyway, here is the survey. The whole Internet is demanding you delurk today, Internet, and I’m making it easy on you with a simple survey for you to fill out. Do other blogs treat you this good? No, I bet they don’t. That’s why if you delurk on one blog today, it should be mine. Not that it’s a vote or anything. It’s just that you might only have time to comment on a few, or maybe just one. Would you like a cookie or to borrow my Slanket? How can I make you comfortable? Comment on my blog.

Anyway! Since last year’s survey worked so well, I’ll be using it again. Even if you’re not a lurker, you can fill it out, and even if you filled it out last year, you should fill it out again this year, so we can all sit together on the deck in those obnoxious thick-necked sweaters, drinking beer and wines we’ve chosen not because we like them, but because we think they’ll be impressive to those we’re with, and laugh through big fake smiles about how much we’ve grown, while we run our hands over the carefully pressed front-creases in our jeans!

The TJ Delurker Survey, 2011:

1. What’s your name, and how long have you been reading this site?

2. Do you have a blog and/or a Twitter name and/or something else we should all read today? If you don’t have one yourself, you can tell us about someone else who is deserving of our eyeballs today.

3. What is your favorite song right now? I am going to go listen to it and tell you what I think. No pressure.

4. Is there anything I haven’t covered or answered but I should have, but you couldn’t tell me that because you were busy lurking?

5. Are you a lurker everywhere, or is it just my blog? I’m going to guess everywhere, because it’s not like you’re intimidated by all my medals or anything. THOUGH YOU MIGHT BE! Because I have actually WON SOME MEDALS since the time I wrote the question last year! So, for the first year in the history of my 12+ years of blogging, “INTIMIDATED BY MEDALS” is a valid reason for not commenting!

6. Tell me something really weird or unusual about you. That will take care of the whole “every time I want to say something, someone already said it” thing.

7. Recommend something. A book, or a movie, or a flash game, or a friend of yours as a really excellent person, or a valid career path, or a little known parenting strategy, or a super clever cleaning tip or trick, or incredibly helpful organizational tool, or the best socks you’ve ever owned. This is your moment to SHINE, Internet.

So there you have it! It’s Delurking Day, and while I understand that many people lurk because they have nothing to say, or someone already said it, I have created a SURVEY for you so that you know that you definitely have some things to say that I am interested in hearing. Last year, I spent the entire day attempting to respond to 100+ comments, listening to all the songs, and I think I did a reasonably good job of it. I intend to do the same this year. So old commenter or new commenter or “commented once a long time ago and then never again” commenter or never commenter, come out of your bushes and fill out my survey.

I offered you my SLANKET. You HAVE to.

144 responses to “Get out of my bushes, 2011”

  1. Erica says:

    1. I’m Erica. I’ve been reading your blog since early fall.

    2. Nope. I dream about it sometimes, but I haven’t taken the leap.

    3. Maryland, by Vonda Shepard. Famous in a Small Town, by Miranda Lambert. 32 Flavors, by Ani Difranco.

    4. Nope. I come for the random.

    5. I tend to lurk at people-talking-about-their lives blogs. I live in a small, conservative town, and like the opportunity to peek into people living lives unlike my own. It keeps me remembering that the world is bigger than this, and there are people unlike the people that live here. Thats good!

    I also lurk at mom blogs. I’m incredibly freaked out by parenthood. I’m not a parent yet. In this small town, there are only a few defination of “mom.” I read mom blogs to remind myself that there are multiple defination of “mom,” there are many ways to parent effectively, and that it’s not as scary as I’m finding it right now.

    However, I teach high school here and education methods courses a the state university an hour away. As a local leader, I comment on education sites when I feel I have the knowledge base or experiences to add to the conversation.

    6. After hanging around with teenagers for years, I think of nearly nothing as weird or unusual. On the other hand, I’m an introvert doing an extrovert’s job. It’s exhausting. After making hundereds of quick decisions, talking loudley and having thirty pairs of eyes staring at me all day, I like to come home to quiet and calm. Many of my kids think that’s weird. Also, I’m an English teacher than can’t spell. They can’t get over that, either.

    7. I just finished Po Bronson’s “Why do I Love These People?” It’s an interesting investigation of family dymanics and culture that raises thoughtful questions about who we consider family and why. An easy to read, hard to think about book.

  2. Lara says:

    1. What’s your name, and how long have you been reading this site?

    Lara, I’ve been reading for a year… or two… not sure. I go through long spats of time where I don’t check my feed reader sometimes.

    2. Do you have a blog and/or a Twitter name and/or something else we should all read today? If you don’t have one yourself, you can tell us about someone else who is deserving of our eyeballs today.

    Umm… I have a WoW blog, but I rarely post in it. I mostly read WoW blogs and humor blogs, but, hey, if you play wow- you could check out my friend’s blog- http://treehealsgowoosh.wordpress.com/ She’s been making a bit of a stir in her own right, and was my former co-officer in a guild, plus a great friend for several years.

    3. What is your favorite song right now? I am going to go listen to it and tell you what I think. No pressure.

    The Bird and the Bee- Man

    4. Is there anything I haven’t covered or answered but I should have, but you couldn’t tell me that because you were busy lurking?

    Not really, sorry.

    5. Are you a lurker everywhere, or is it just my blog?

    I lurk everywhere unless I have something specific to say that hasn’t been addressed by another comment.

    6. Tell me something really weird or unusual about you. That will take care of the whole “every time I want to say something, someone already said it” thing.

    I went to college at 15, though it was just community college, but at 22 I still don’t have any sort of diploma or degree and am just now re-enrolling despite my social anxiety issues.

    7. Recommend something. A book, or a movie, or a flash game, or a friend of yours as a really excellent person, or a valid career path, or a little known parenting strategy, or a super clever cleaning tip or trick, or incredibly helpful organizational tool, or the best socks you’ve ever owned. This is your moment to SHINE, Internet.

    See, this is why I lurk. I never have anything specific or terribly useful, and when I do, I forget to write it down! Subway’s sugar cookies are really good, having an amazing phone voice leads to a ton of career opportunities, don’t oversalt bread- oh. I know!

    http://thesocietypages.org/socimages/ Is a really really interesting website and one of my favorites.

  3. Mary says:

    I’m a bit late to the party, but am going to respond anyway, since although I always intend to comment more, I rarely do.

    1. Mary. A little over a year.. maybe a year and a half? I remember last year’s de-lurking day, but am not sure how long before that I started reading.

    2. I have a livejournal, but it is largely friends-only. No Twitter. Have lately been pondering an honest-to-goodness blog, but.. eh, haven’t done anything but think about it yet. Currently there are only three blogs I check regularly: yours, Pioneer Woman’s (especially her cooking page and Tasty Kitchen), and In Color Order: http://incolororder.blogspot.com/

    3. Favorite-songs-of-the-moment-in-no-particular-order:

    “Viva La Vida” by Coldplay
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dvgZkm1xWPE
    (largely because of when you posted that video of that couple dancing. I <3 that video)

    "I'm Yours" by Jason Mraz
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EkHTsc9PU2A

    "Hey, Soul Sister" by Train
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kVpv8-5XWOI

    "Human" by The Killers
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RIZdjT1472Y

    and

    "Jai Ho (You Are My Destiny)" by AR Rahman and the Pussycat Dolls
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Yc5OyXmHD0w

    4. I can't think of anything you haven't covered. I just like reading all of it. :)

    5. I lurk most of the time and yes, it's everywhere. Trying to do better, but as Yoda would say..

    6. I was born 10 weeks early. Which nowadays might not be so unusual, but 30-something (mumble mumble) years ago, it kinda was. My doctors and nurses were awesome. :) (I don't remember that part, but I'm still here, so they must've been!)

    7. I hate touching raw meat, even when it's packaged, so when I have to shop for it at the grocery store, I put a produce bag over my hand like a glove, and once I have the package I want, I pull the bag off and over the package so I don't actually have to touch it at all, it's just all of a sudden in an inside out produce bag which allows me to put it in the cart, and to unload it at the register, etc. I try to do it so that the blank side of the bag will end up on the top side where the scanner label thingie is, so that the checkout person doesn't have to take it out. This might ought to have been number 6. *scuffle*

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  5. Amy says:

    I’m de-lurking way late .. because I’m a slacker
    1. Amy — reading this site since umm 05 or 06 — I remember I found it from bigredkitty back when you played WoW and I realized how weirdly similiar we think about things, so I’ve lurked since. Does it make it weirder that it’s been that long? I have posted like two times before and got blocked because it was about your evil work and e-mailed you about poisoned mcdonalds glasses.

    2. No blog. Honestly, aside from this blog, I love amalah.com, which I found when you linked during baby-sitting (I lurk on her site too!)

    3. Way too much pressure to list a song. I brought my hubby cage the elephant for Christmas and every time I use his car I blast the wicked song.

    4. Hrm. I can’t really think of anything.

    5. I lurk everywhere. Except if I can maybe win a prize for doing nothing but posting. Since I got into scrapbooking/stamping, lots of people give away stuff for free which I like. So I’m a lurker and a freeloader. Although, some people all post that there are prizes and never post the winner. I go back to lurking on those web sites.

    6. Umm. I have a weird food thing. I don’t like melted cheese on some meats. Like most italian is awesome, cheese burgers are not. I love mac and cheese, but hate cheese dip.

    7. Hrm. I suggest the Kim Harrison Rachel Morgan series. I never heard of it until my husband gave it to for my birthday and while my inital impression was to gripe at him for going off my accepted author list; after reading the books — i love them and have read them several times each. Also if you like Stephenie Meyers — read the host. I love the twilight series, but the host is so awesome.

  6. Tim says:

    I realize this is long after the original post, but in the spirit of de-lurking, I figured “better late than never.”

    1. Tim. Been reading for at least a couple of years now. Initially stumbled onto your blog via BRK, back in my WoW days. Played a rogue for several years, but stopped playing cold turkey about a year or so ago. No specific reason, but it was becoming an increasingly-large timesuck.
    2. No blog or twitter account of my own. I do operate a number of blogs as a teacher (for my classes/students), but I couldn’t in good conscience recommend them for casual reading.
    3. I’ve been listening to Sarah Jarosz lately — caught her on “Austin City Limits,” and her “hard-to-classify” style of music has really caught my ear of late.
    5. Don’t read many other blogs per se, so I guess this is my sole lurking venue. I have chipped in with a couple of random comments. I very much enjoy your wit, and your perspective in general, and I’ve enjoyed the evolution of what you’re doing here.
    6. Something weird or unusual… umm… my students often bug me about getting a tattoo or a piercing/earring. My response is that a 6’5″ 300lb. bald man doesn’t need anything else to make him stand out in a crowd.
    7. As far as a recommendation, I read slate.com daily, and I’ve become a complete Kindle addict since finally getting one this past Christmas.

    Thanks for all you do here — I get a lot of enjoyment out of reading/following. ; )