Things places say, valid diaperings, babies for babies, Phil fell for it twice

Let’s just get this out of the way now.

1. Are you a person who says, “I’d like to come with you,” or “I want to come with?”

2. Are you a person who says, “That needs to be washed,” or “That needs washed?”

3. Are you a person who says, “Take 101 to whatever,” or “Take the 101 to whatever?”

I’m willing to entertain your responses and reasonings on 1 and 2, but if you’re not in my camp, I will forever view you through “says weird things” colored lenses.

Now, number 3, I am finally willing to admit is a kind of regional thing, though I refuse to ever quit taunting Phil about it. When we first met, I was all, “What the shit is this ‘the 10’ crap? Do me a favor. When we’re in Pennsylvania, tell my sister to ‘take the 81’ and see what she says to you,” because let me tell you, Internet, my sister is someone who is INCREDIBLY PICKY about the way that you say things. Yes, you. Well, mostly me. I can’t say the word “soda” or “phone” without her attempting to get me to repeat it for her correctly.

Anyway, Phil did say something to my sister about “the 81,” and predictably, she said, “What the hell is THAT about? It’s 81. Just 81.” Which is TRUE.

But I guess out here in the Westerny part of the country, it’s common to add “the” in front of highway numbers. In Pennsylvania and Maryland, where I have gathered all of my extensive data, there is no “the.” It’s simply, “Take 81 to 83” or, “I take 270 to work” or, more commonly, “Hi, please forward my mail, because I’m going to be on 495 for the rest of my ever-loving life.”

Other ones? I mean, do you have any? I’m not really interested in pronunciation differences – I get that some people say “water” and some people say “wooder,” and that whole pronunciation video meme thing went around for a while and I didn’t watch a single one because who caaaaaaares. Some people say “ant” and some people say “auuuunt.” Got it. Also not interested in regional expressions. You know, like how Southern ladies say, “Oh, bless your heart,” when they really mean, “If I wasn’t such a lady, I would FUCK YOU UP.” I am more interested in regional differences in the way things are said, like the above examples. Please come up with some further instances of what I have illustrated above, so that we can all marvel at how weird other people are.


I still intend to write my cloth diaper post, or maybe posts, I’m not sure, but I did want to get one thing out of the way.

It’s probably clear by now that I have about 7 jillion different kinds of diapers, and I think that some people probably find that a little intimidating. And it can be, I guess, but you should know that I eased into it.

Another perfectly valid approach to cloth diapering is to create an entire stash of diapers from just one brand. A lot of people do this, and it’s a very simple, uncomplicated way to do things, and you can also usually get really good deals on packages of diapers.

In fact, that was my original intention. I shopped sales and swaps before Penny was born and collected a couple of a few different kinds of diapers, intending to try them out and decide what worked best for us, sell the rest, and buy an entire collection of just one kind of diaper, like tons of people do. I did not do that.

But if you want to, you will probably end up going with one of the bigger “names” in diapers, because they are the easiest to obtain. If you’re interested in a hybrid system (one that will let you use cloth or disposable inserts as needed), you might like Flip, GroVia or GDiapers. (I do not use hybrids, so I cannot help you, but you’d still be making a nice choice.)

If you’re interested in pockets, you have probably mostly heard about BumGenius and FuzziBunz. Both excellent brands. If you were going to ask me, I’d say to go with FuzziBunz, because I like them better than I like BumGenius. But a lot of people like BumGenius, too.

Actually, if you were going to ask me, I’d say to go with Blueberry diapers for your pockets, because I don’t mind spending ridiculous amounts of your money right out of your pocket. (I am phasing out all of my pockets except for my Blueberry and newer FuzziBunz. But pockets are still an excellent choice!) But if you’re choosing between FuzziBunz and BumGenius, I’d say FuzziBunz. Unless you want to go with BumGenius.

You know. Whatever.

What I’m saying, in a completely unhelpful way, is that while the way I talk about cloth diapers and my personal collection of various types of pockets, AI2s and fitteds may be a little more complex that you (or Phil) are totally comfortable with, that shouldn’t discourage you away from cloth diapers, because JUST PICKING ONE is a perfectly valid (and probably sane) way to do things.



Left a little note for Phil to find before he left for work in the morning. <3


Yesterday, we got into the discussion about whether you should ever consider having a second child for the reasoning that eventually you will be dead, and who will your kid hang out with? And also, after watching Vlogbrothers for so long, if you are robbing your kid of a special relationship in their adulthood if you don’t have a sibling for them, even if they hate each other growing up, and even if having a second kid (in your specific case) will make it so that you cannot raise either kid in exactly the manner you want, which you would be able to do with just one kid.

I don’t even want to talk about that shit, Internet.


I know people do these all the time, but what are you reading that I’m not reading that I should be reading? I mean, I’m sure you read some really good blogs about exercise and healthy living, but I just celebrated There’s Chocolate Cake in the Fridge Day by having chocolate cake for breakfast. So. Realistically. Who are you reading that I should seek out and pester until they become my very best friend forever, or at least until they give in and agree to be my secret best friend, like Duck Face Walter was Stephanie Tanner’s secret boyfriend.

Who do you know who needs a Duck Face Walter in their life in the form of me?


Internet, here are some choices we’re batting around right now:

1. Base of preference, standard list: We have a list of bases where we would like to live, on the East Coast, within reasonable driving distance of where all of my family is concentrated. We can put in a list (again) to let the powers that be know that we would like to move to one of these bases if space is available, and wait and see (and likely be denied, again).

2. Bade of preference, new list: If we can’t get one of the bases that’s within driving distance of family/people we know, it doesn’t really make a difference where we go, because we’d just be in the same situation we’re in now, so what does it matter where? This is known as the “anywhere but Arizona” idea.

3. Put in for overseas assignments as they become available, to places where Penny and I could accompany Phil. We’d be overseas for a few years, then have a better chance of getting a base of our choosing when we came back. However, not too many things we’re interested are opening up over the last few cycles, and they’re not even remotely guaranteed anyway, so we’d be sitting and waiting in AZ in the meantime.

4. A special job in either Montana, Wyoming or North Dakota for a few years. That would get us out of AZ, and also give Phil a little break from his career field, which is kind of needed right now. However, we’d be just as far from family as before, and it would be starting over, in a way, as Phil would have to learn a whole new job. His schedule, if manning was good in the position, would be 3 days on, 4 days off. Now, those 3 days would be three entire days, as in, at a different location, not home at night, Skype in for bedtime. But then, you know, 4 days off. Unless manning isn’t good. Which it isn’t always. Then just two days off at a time. A slight edge to this job is that there would be no deploying for four years, which is nice, but not a reason to choose it, as Phil and I are both of the belief that when you join the military, you do your share as called upon to do it. So. That would be nice, but we’d never choose something specifically to avoid Phil being sent overseas, if that makes sense.

5. An unaccompanied short tour for Phil. He put it for one recently and it doesn’t look like he got it. A common option for this is Korea, and Phil has already done a year in Korea, and is not super keen on the idea of doing another one. He’d go alone, and Penny and I would either go to Pennsylvania near my family for the year, or we would go to our follow on base if it was one of our top choices, again within driving distance of family. This is not really at the top of our list, because who wants to be away for a year? But it gives you an edge in getting a base you’d want after that year. But an edge doesn’t mean a guarantee. You could ask for New Jersey, Delaware or Virginia and they could offer you North Dakota, North Dakota, or North Dakota.

6. Do one more BOP round with our top bases. If we don’t get them, settle down and accept Phoenix living. The weather is great most of the year. There’s tons of stuff to do. Lots of concerts, all major sporting events, state fairs, good food. We’d look into moving off base in early 2012 into a Big Kid House, because base housing, while it met our needs when we really needed them met, is hard for me to see as a permanent home. Move into a nice house in the West Valley somewhere, with a block wall fence so Sheldon will stop getting away.

7. Listen, you. I already know your vote. MacDill. I got it. I tell Phil every time we discuss it. “Don’t forget to count the vote for MacDill.

Reality: Oh, you guys. They’re never going to let us out of Arizona.

I don’t know why I laid all of that out. Do any of you have sway with the base assignments of the USAF? If so, WHY HAVEN’T YOU TOLD ME BEFORE? If not, well. We’ll be right here. In Arizona.

114 thoughts on “Things places say, valid diaperings, babies for babies, Phil fell for it twice

  1. Sarah in Ottawa

    In one and two, I’m all about the former. But I’m in the latter camp for #3. I’ll say “Take the 401 to the 416 to the 417 (aka The Queensway) to get to Ottawa”. But I will say “We’re taking I-81 to Pennsylvania”.

    I also want to be there when you and Diane don your Tweet and Retweet shirts. You guys crack me up. Were you twins in another life?

  2. Megan H

    1. Neither. I want to “go” with you.
    2. WTH? Do people really say “needs washed”?
    3. Never say “the”. It’s always just the numbers, sometimes with an I in front for interstates.

    Dude, did you see the new Blueberry prints that came out today? LOVE.

    I know you don’t want to talk about it, but my BIL is an only child and he wishes he’d had a sibling (but that’s what friends are for). However, when his parents die he will get everything so he is happy about that.

  3. Francesca

    I am a Brit, so have some international perspective!

    1. “I’d like to come with you.”

    2. “That needs to be washed,” or “That needs washING.”

    3. “Take the 101 to whatever.” I’m not entirely sure why, but my boyfriend says it’s because we DON’T say “Get in car! Take 101 to zoo! Stop off at gas station if you need to!”

  4. Tessa

    I don’t know much about the Air Force, short of the flyboys I dated in high school, but I’m from ND…and now live in AZ. I love it there, the people are amazing, it’s beautiful and the pace of life is so much different…a great place to grow up. That said, it is fucking cold there. For much of the year. You will need to get a heater installed in your car, you’ll plug your car in overnight, and it’s guaranteed you’ll forget to unplug it and then drive around dragging your extension cord. (some nice north Dakotan will tell you and help you coil it up, though.). There’s a crazy oil boom up there, so no housing, so you’d have to live on base. But I bet Penny would be adorable in a snowsuit, so for that reason alone I vote ND. And if you get super lonely go visit my family. My mom will make you yummy food and watch Penny while you nap.

  5. Andrea

    One of my LEAST favorite Pittsburgh sayings is SLIPPY. As in: it’s slippy outside today. Instead of SLIPPERY. Because, ya know, that ER is just exhausting to say…

    ProudNerdMom Reply:

    That “ER” is where you END UP when you don’t pay attention when it’s slipp[er]y.

    Betty Reply:

    Instead of saying, “It’s nippy out”, but husband says (with a straight face) “It’s nipply out.”

  6. Amelia

    If I’m allowed to talk about things that bug the crap out of me, here’s one (or many):
    It’s not “come with you” – “come” is relative to “me,” so it’s “come with ME” and “GO with YOU.”

    Also, “lie” and “lay” – “I LIE down on the floor,” “I lay the book down on the floor.” The use of “lay” requires a direct object, and so many, many, many people say “I’m going to lay down” when they mean “I’m going to lie down.”

    Also, it is a really stinkin’ popular series, but have you read the Janet Evanovich numbered books (One for the Money, etc)? They are totally fluffy, but I am guaranteed to laugh out loud at least once, and heartily, in every book.

  7. Kara

    I just realized I’m really sporadic about when I use “the” in front of highways. I say “the 5” and “the 101” but the “the 134” just sounds weird. I grew up in KY and it always drove my mom nuts when I used “the” so who knows where I got it. I’ve noticed in LA that no one says interstate, everything is a freeway.

    I’ve gotten weird looks from a range of people for saying “grocery” instead of “grocery store.” The store is redundant, right?

    My sympathies on the military woes. My sister is finishing med school and applying for residencies and her husband is in the Army so their lives are 12 kinds of chaotic.

  8. Cayt

    I am English but living in scotland, and I have an explanation for thing number two. See, I would always say, ‘that thing needs to be done’ or alternatively, ‘that thing needs doing’ but here in Scotland, and in Ireland, too, it’s usual to say ‘that thing needs done’. This is because in gaelic and old irish, the celtic languages, there is a verb form for the situation of needs done which does not exist in English, and so needs done is the closest one gets to it. I wonder if the places in America which say needs done rather than needs to be done/needs doing are the ones which were largely settled by Scots and Irish, rather than English speakers.

    Our freeways/highways/interstates are called motorways and are all named with an ‘m’ in front of the number, so I’d say ‘I’ll go up the M6’ or ‘drive along the M1’. And I’d say ‘I’d like to come with you’ (yes, I’m answering your questions out of order. I don’t care.)

    For Soda, some people here say ‘pop’ but I say ‘fizzy drinks’. In the part of England where I worked before I moved here, candy (sweets, if you’re me) was universally referred to as toffees. You’d be offered a boiled sweet (hard candy) and they’d say ‘would you like a toffee?’ Also terms of endearment: there, they would say ‘cock’ and it was a term of endearment, much like ‘dear’ or something. Here in Scotland, they say ‘hen’, and ‘wife’ is a synonym for ‘woman’ not ‘female spouse’.

  9. Kirsty

    For your language things:
    1. I’d say both, but meaning different things (“like” is not “want”);
    2. That needs to be washed, for sure (in fact, I say this just about a zillion times every day);
    3. This is difficult. As a Brit, if I were in Britain (which I’m not), I’d say “the” for motorways and the like (“you go up the A1 from London to Scotland”); in French, there’s always an article (“tu prends le A7 jusqu’à Montpellier”) and if I were talking about French motorways in English, I’d use the article too (“the A7”).
    For the rest, I have no experience of cloth diapers or military bases. I do have a question, though: you’ve mentioned before the “anywhere but AZ” thing, yet you give a list here of “positive” things about Arizona. What is it you don’t like that makes you want “anywhere but”? With my limited knowledge of the US, I’d have imagined North Dakota as being much worse than Arizona (crap weather to start with, no?), but am willing to admit I could be wildly wrong…

  10. elembee123

    I have a few expressions I’ve heard recently that really confuse me – are they regional? Generational? Slang?

    1. “I am so bored OF this game” vs “I am so bored WITH this game” (I’ve always said WITH)

    2. “I couldn’t fall back ASLEEP” vs “I couldn’t fall back TO sleep”

    3. Had a friend who grew up in Chicago who always said “I have to cut the grass” which used to send me into paroxysms of laughter thinking of her on her knees using scissors to “mow the lawn” which is what I always did every weekend. :)

    4. Definitely a regional thing: Using time vs mileage to measure distance. My rels in Idaho get so confused when I (a CA girl) want to know how far it is from Town A to Town B and when they respond “about x-number of miles” say “Yeah, but how FAR is it?” (meaning how long does it take to get there?)

  11. Sarah

    I just assume that people who say they’d like to “come with” are a little slow in the head, British, or a LOLcat.

    I might say “that needs washing” but once again, who would use the past tense for something that hasn’t happened yet?

    Sarah Reply:

    CAN I ADD ON PLEASE? People who say things like “so I says to him, I says…” AAAARGH

  12. Meredith

    I live in Central PA, and lots of people around here leave out “to be” in lots of places, like “the dishes need washed” “the bed needs made” “the table needs set” etc. and…although I am generally a grammer nazi…it just doesn’t bother me, and I even do it sometimes, because it’s just how we say things in my family.

    There are people in my family, although not my parents so this sounds weird to me, who say “the peanut butter is all” when they mean there’s no more peanut butter. Or whatever food or other item that people tend to run out of.

    Other PA Dutch folks say “outen the light” instead of “turn out the light,” which is apparently because of the similarity of the phrase to actual German.

  13. Misfit

    In south central Kentucky (where I moved to 15 years ago), the locals say, “I don’t care to… (fill in the blank with whatever).” What this means (to them) is that they would LOVE to do whatever you asked.
    It’s just so wrong.

  14. Erin

    A few things:

    1) “All the sudden”. It’s “all *of a* sudden”, guys, and if you say “all the sudden” I will look at you funny.

    2) HEART my Grovia diapers. Actually just saw someone using the disposable inserts on them last night (I use the snap-in ones) and I swear to you I thought she was putting one of those postpartum, mattress-sized maxi pads in her kid’s diaper.

    3) Blogs you should read: For starters, *I* need a Duck Face Walter in my life. However, if you’re looking for blogs that are not full of shameless self-promotion, do you read Bye Bye Pie? June would TOTALLY be on board with There’s Chocolate Cake in the Fridge Day.

  15. mhelfrey

    Coupon when pronounced with a Q “QueuePon”

    My wife and her entire family talk about their drivers license in plural.

    ME: “I need to renew my license.”
    Her: “When do you need to renew THEM by?”

  16. Ale

    Where I live, it is common for people to say, “He/She/They work for Fords” as opposed to most everywhere else where one would say, “He/She/They work for Ford”.

    I never hear of any anyone saying they work for Chryslers, Toyotas or GMs, etc.

  17. Maggie

    I grew up in the NE. I have lived in the NW for nearly 20 years, but still retain regionalisms I didn’t realize were regionalisms until I moved. For example, I call sprinkles jimmies.

    As for the road thing, where I grew up the road was simply called by it’s name – “I’m stuck on 95 and will never see home.” Here the freeways at least are accompanied by a letter – “I am stuck on I-5 and will never see home.”

    Also with the “sudden” thing: I’ve always said “all of a sudden” but in the NW “all the sudden” seems more prevalent. It still sounds wrong to me after living here nearly 1/2 my life.

  18. Maggie

    Sorry to multiple comment, but forgot to add (even though you don’t want to talk about it -sorry!) that I’m an only child and aside from my teen years when I wanted my parents to pay attention to literally anything other than what I was doing, I enjoyed being an only. I wasn’t lonely or sad about not having siblings. I’ve noticed with my friends with siblings that having a sibling isn’t any guaranty that one will be close to that person. That said, I have two kids who are 6.5 years apart and they are actually close probably because there isn’t a lot of competition for attention or resources because they are at such different places in their lives. Now I will never speak of it again unless you ask specifically.

  19. Chip

    The only advice I can say regarding the base preference options is: do everything in your power to escape Arizona. Of all the god forsaken places on the planet, Phoenix is probably number #1 in the first world category. I lived in Phoenix in the past, now in Flagstaff, and I do everything in my power to avoid going to Phoenix, except for very special events (such as John or Hank) and travel (such as flying on a plane to get the hell out of here).

  20. velocibadgergirl

    1. I say “come with” but I adopted that somewhere along the way on my own, because most people around here (lower Midwest / Upper South) say “come with you.”

    2. Needs to be washed. The other way is WRONG, you see.

    3. I say “take 101” when speaking of a numbered highway.

  21. Monica

    1. I use “come with you” and “come with” interchangeably. Mostly “with you”.

    2. THIS IS SUCH A SORE SPOT IN MY RELATIONSHIP. My boyfriend says “to be” and I never do. We were both raised in Michigan, but my mom grew up in Pittsburgh and some of her Pittsburghese has rubbed off on me. He’s constantly correcting me AND my mom. (All in good fun. And she never figures out what he’s saying anyway, because she’ll say “This needs microwaved” and he’ll say “This needs to be microwaved?” and she’ll just go “yeah” not understanding that he’s correcting her, not asking if he heard correctly.)

    3. No “the”. That’s dumb. Except I admit whenever I’m in California (which is at least once a year) I do call it “the I-5.” Because that’s what its name is. I would NEVER call any other road “the” anything.

    New ones: People in Michigan (and the midwest?) measure distance in minutes. The rest of the States measure in miles. Ask me how far the grocery store is from here, and I’ll say it’s about five minutes. I have no effing clue how many miles away it is. When I’m out of state and ask someone how far away something is, and they say it’s about fifteen miles, I’m like “uh…that does not help at all.” Technically they’re answering the question more accurately, but it doesn’t tell me what I really need to know, which is how long it takes to get there. Which is maybe what I should be asking in the first place. I don’t know. I’m just a midwesterner.

  22. Mary

    1. Can I come with
    2. That needs washing (ing NOT ed)
    3. Take 101 East to whatever.. Generally the direction is always included around here out of necessity.

    In line, for queues (which I call lines, not queues)

    Soda pop, always both words together. Unless you’re being specific, in which case it’s Diet Mountain Dew. ;) Or just Diet Dew.

    Sometimes I say “reach me” when I prolly ought to say “hand me” (Like, “would you reach me the ketchup, please?”)

    I sometimes will end a sentence with “reckon?” if I’m asking if someone agrees with whatever I just said, or if I think it’s self evident.

    “Fixing to” is ubiquitous around here. (Maybe I should say “around these parts.” but no, I don’t really say that. Fits the locale pretty well though.)

    I never know what to call those circley thingies in the road. I tend to start spouting every name for them I’ve ever heard of, just to make sure it’s clear what I’m talking about, but I *think* that I tend to think of them as roundabouts, but I also think that my Dad told my sister they are called “circuses” which just seems wrong (but she may have misremembered). I hate them.

    I second the recommendation of the Janet Evanovich Stephanie Plum series.

    Blogs other than yours that I (currently) check on a fairly regular basis:

    I’m not qualified to opine about BOP, I just hope things work out well for you guys.

  23. Canth

    “I’d like to come with you”, Or I’d like to come along. (The former being used more in the bedroom)

    “That needs to be washed”, “That needs washing”, or “That needs a wash”

    “Take ROUTE 101 to whatever”, “Take I93 to there”

    It isn’t just a number. It’s either a route, or an interstate.

    This coming from a European perspective, with a New England influence. But grammar matters. “That needs washed” or “I want to come with” do not make grammatical sense.
    Of course I am talking to a US audience here, so this will fall upon deaf ears, or just planly not be understood. I know when rational reasoning is futile.

    Also, learned after a month here in the Boston area, when asked “How ya doin'”, the correct response is not “Great, and you?”. The correct response is “How you doing?”, and move on.
    You just need to ask the question to be polite. You do not need to answer it, or expect an answer. (Also, do not answer “How are you doing” the added correct grammar will throw people off, and makes them give you quizzical looks and they will feel like they actually have to answer the greeting, making things awkward.)

    Canth Reply:

    -plainly. Where’s your edit button.

    Mary Reply:

    “Of course I am talking to a US audience here, so this will fall upon deaf ears, or just plainly not be understood. I know when rational reasoning is futile.” — Seriously??

  24. sister

    I had to stop reading the comments because I was getting so stressed out.
    IT IS CALLED SODA, PEOPLE. Coke is a TYPE of soda. Soda.
    When Phil said “The 81” to me I think my head spun completely around.
    ALSO, it is a GRILL, not a Barbecue. A barbecue is an event, at which you cook your food on the GRILL.
    PREPOSITIONS ARE NOT WORDS WITH WHICH TO END SENTENCES. Therefore, never say “come with” ever. Not ever.

  25. sister

    Also Chuck frequently says “What’s a matter?” AAAAGGGGGHHHHH. The other day he caught me in a bad mood and after he said “What’s a matter?” I screamed “THE!!!! THE THE THE THE THE!!! WHAT IS TTTTHHHHHEEEE MATTER!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!”

  26. Kristy

    I’ve always gotten to be the weird girl who lives in Philly but calls a shopping cart a buggy and says “WA-TER” instead of wooder but then I come South to visit my family (and where I was born) and I get looks because I call them sneakers instead of tennis shoes or talk about Mischief Night, which no one here in my part of the South seems to know about.

    That being said, I say:

    1. I want to come with – because I’m lazy
    2. That needs washed – because I grew up in Philly and because I’m lazy.
    3. Take 101 to wherever – because that’s how you say it! Unless I’m referring to a road with an actual nickname, like THE Blue Route or The Schuylkill, it’s take 95 or 26, etc. Or if I have to be specific, like Route 30.

    Some other weird things I always notice:

    People in the Philly area tend to say they’re going to the market or even going to THE ACME instead of just the grocery store.

    I’ve also heard, “Leave it go” instead of “Let it go” and that just always seemed weird to me – I have no idea who’s actually in the right. And I’ve heard people append the word anymore to the end of a sentence, like “He used to eat pizza but he eats chicken wings anymore” – which I can’t even begin to explain how that makes sense.

    Then there are my strictly old school Southern grandparents who still use commode for toilet, spigot for faucet, and supper for dinner (where dinner is actually lunch).

    I found this years ago and thought it was rather interesting:

  27. Betty

    1. I want to go with you.
    2. That has to be washed.
    3. Don’t even *try* to give me directions. Just plug the address into the GPS, cause I’m navigationally challenged.

    Come should be used as in “Come to *this* place”; [as in from there to here] Go should be used as in “Go to *that* place. [as in from here to there]

    Bring should be used as in “Bring that to me.” [as in from there to here]; Take should be used as in “Take that to her.” [as in from here to there]

    Why, yes, I *was* raised in the South.

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