Comments on: Spooning doesn’t mean I love you, it means I have SURVIVAL INSTINCTS.

By: Lawrence

Lawrence — Wed, 27 Jan 2010 16:55:00 +0000

/em grins excitedly for more sleeping arrangement drawings.

My wife and I have been together for 3 years now, and we faced much the same dilemma with a slight twist. Yes, spooning is absolutely a lot of fun, if one does not plan on sleeping. Guys cannot resist the urge to “butt-touch” and other mild forms of groping. The only question is how long was the “butt-touching” occurring before you finally woke up?

Our difficulty sleeping, other than the aforementioned spooning issues, is due to my snoring. Also, my wife prefers to sleep in an electric heating pad, space heater, multi-blanket sauna, and I prefer a single blanket and a temperature akin to something less than the surface of the sun. Due to these issues and our need to both get a good night’s sleep, we have been sleeping in separate rooms for almost the entire time we have been together. If we want some good “together” time, we just meet up in her room. It works out very well since we have learned that sleep is as important as eating, drinking, and sex. If neither one of us gets a good night’s sleep, then we end up being complete asses to each other the next day.

So by sleeping separately, we have improved all aspects of our life and removed a lot of unnecessary nastiness.

By: Phaedra

Phaedra — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 19:02:25 +0000

Not too long after we got married, my husband and I decided on having two sets of blankets and sheets for our bed. I’m pretty sure it’s helping us stay married, especially since I can now rock my sheet, two thin blankets, electric blanket, and down comforter to his sheet and thin blanket.

By: romasunfire

romasunfire — Tue, 26 Jan 2010 17:29:57 +0000

I am way behind on the times here, but might I suggest the Snuggie? I need more blankets/like the spoon business, but I don’t like when someone decides that needs to lead to businesstime. The Snuggie adds an extra layer of warmth and makes my ladyflower inpenetrable. It also leopard-print, and therefore sassy.

By: Chibi Jeebs

Chibi Jeebs — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 01:25:23 +0000

I swear we share a brain or, or… something. I roll myself up like a burrito when I can. I hate the Cold Air Divide. Add to that Chebbar’s propensity to YANK all the blankets with him when he rolls over, and I’m left cold and cranky.

We tried king-sized blankets on our queen-sized bed, but that just means MORE blankets for him to steal; now, I have to bide my time a bit before I suggest buying EVEN MORE blankets so we can have our own.

I have terrible, awful, no good sleep issues which result in us sleeping separately during the week; I try in our bed on weekends, but generally end up in the office at 1am. I would L.O.V.E. separate beds in the same room: next time we need a mattress and/or we possess a bigger bedroom, we just might give this a shot.

By: sara

sara — Sun, 24 Jan 2010 01:14:58 +0000

Heh. The whole first year my husband and I were dating, I didn’t know that he couldn’t sleep with someone touching him. Every time we slept in the same bed, basically, he wouldn’t sleep cause I’m a snuggler. Once I found out, I stopped snuggling, and we sleep as your “proposed superior solution” depicts. My husband actually sleeps at night now! Bonus: it makes snuggle time more special, imo. :)

By: Jason Doege

Jason Doege — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 18:15:19 +0000

Something similar to the Superior Solution that my wife and I do is to fill the cold air space in the middle with pillows. It works for us.

By: Jason R. Peters

Jason R. Peters — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 16:01:00 +0000

We have separate beds in the same room. We face none of the problems, but since her twin and my queen are adjacent, it’s easy to roll together for weekend snuggling or hanky panky.

Sleep and sex are separate, unrelated activities. How quickly we forget.

By: Brad

Brad — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 14:37:58 +0000

We are two blanket people. I can not even imagine trying to sleep without it.

By: Swistle

Swistle — Sat, 23 Jan 2010 02:00:26 +0000

I love this and made Paul read it too. He recognized himself in the problems with spooning. I recognized him too.

By: Rachael

Rachael — Fri, 22 Jan 2010 22:53:04 +0000

I know multiple couples who keep his & hers blankets on the bed, jsut for this situation. Our solution is 2 blankies, and he’s under both, but I’m only under 1, so that everyone has their own space & level of warmth, but we can still be cuddled up. :)