I think the Proposed Superior Solution is the way to go (and the one I currently deploy at night). Also, might I suggest a bigger bed? If you have a Super King size bed, you would have room for Brinkley, Phil and you, to each have your own territory with no breezes upon anything. I have one and I can sprawl all I want and still have SPACE.. and yet if I want to I can still scootch over to smack my husband in the face while we sleep if I feel like it. Win-Win!
I’ve just linked this to my boyfriend, as we had pretty much exactly the same issue last night..
Trying to explain “how close is too close” and the problem of someone being in all up in my business was waaay to hard without pictures, and in the dark..
Thanks Teej!
Perhaps pictorially explaining bedtime battles is your minor superpower??
I usually show your posts to the hubby, but I am afraid of this one. I am a very giving person when awake, but apparently any attempts at intimacy when I am asleep are met with violence. I don’t remember any of these attacks. Poor guy.
I know multiple couples who keep his & hers blankets on the bed, jsut for this situation. Our solution is 2 blankies, and he’s under both, but I’m only under 1, so that everyone has their own space & level of warmth, but we can still be cuddled up. :)
We have separate beds in the same room. We face none of the problems, but since her twin and my queen are adjacent, it’s easy to roll together for weekend snuggling or hanky panky.
Sleep and sex are separate, unrelated activities. How quickly we forget.
Heh. The whole first year my husband and I were dating, I didn’t know that he couldn’t sleep with someone touching him. Every time we slept in the same bed, basically, he wouldn’t sleep cause I’m a snuggler. Once I found out, I stopped snuggling, and we sleep as your “proposed superior solution” depicts. My husband actually sleeps at night now! Bonus: it makes snuggle time more special, imo. :)
I swear we share a brain or, or… something. I roll myself up like a burrito when I can. I hate the Cold Air Divide. Add to that Chebbar’s propensity to YANK all the blankets with him when he rolls over, and I’m left cold and cranky.
We tried king-sized blankets on our queen-sized bed, but that just means MORE blankets for him to steal; now, I have to bide my time a bit before I suggest buying EVEN MORE blankets so we can have our own.
I have terrible, awful, no good sleep issues which result in us sleeping separately during the week; I try in our bed on weekends, but generally end up in the office at 1am. I would L.O.V.E. separate beds in the same room: next time we need a mattress and/or we possess a bigger bedroom, we just might give this a shot.
I am way behind on the times here, but might I suggest the Snuggie? I need more blankets/like the spoon business, but I don’t like when someone decides that needs to lead to businesstime. The Snuggie adds an extra layer of warmth and makes my ladyflower inpenetrable. It also leopard-print, and therefore sassy.
Not too long after we got married, my husband and I decided on having two sets of blankets and sheets for our bed. I’m pretty sure it’s helping us stay married, especially since I can now rock my sheet, two thin blankets, electric blanket, and down comforter to his sheet and thin blanket.
/em grins excitedly for more sleeping arrangement drawings.
My wife and I have been together for 3 years now, and we faced much the same dilemma with a slight twist. Yes, spooning is absolutely a lot of fun, if one does not plan on sleeping. Guys cannot resist the urge to “butt-touch” and other mild forms of groping. The only question is how long was the “butt-touching” occurring before you finally woke up?
Our difficulty sleeping, other than the aforementioned spooning issues, is due to my snoring. Also, my wife prefers to sleep in an electric heating pad, space heater, multi-blanket sauna, and I prefer a single blanket and a temperature akin to something less than the surface of the sun. Due to these issues and our need to both get a good night’s sleep, we have been sleeping in separate rooms for almost the entire time we have been together. If we want some good “together” time, we just meet up in her room. It works out very well since we have learned that sleep is as important as eating, drinking, and sex. If neither one of us gets a good night’s sleep, then we end up being complete asses to each other the next day.
So by sleeping separately, we have improved all aspects of our life and removed a lot of unnecessary nastiness.
By Delicia on Jan 22, 2010
I think the Proposed Superior Solution is the way to go (and the one I currently deploy at night). Also, might I suggest a bigger bed? If you have a Super King size bed, you would have room for Brinkley, Phil and you, to each have your own territory with no breezes upon anything. I have one and I can sprawl all I want and still have SPACE.. and yet if I want to I can still scootch over to smack my husband in the face while we sleep if I feel like it. Win-Win!
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By Teal on Jan 22, 2010
I’ve just linked this to my boyfriend, as we had pretty much exactly the same issue last night..
Trying to explain “how close is too close” and the problem of someone being in all up in my business was waaay to hard without pictures, and in the dark..
Thanks Teej!
Perhaps pictorially explaining bedtime battles is your minor superpower??
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By Shawndra on Jan 22, 2010
I usually show your posts to the hubby, but I am afraid of this one. I am a very giving person when awake, but apparently any attempts at intimacy when I am asleep are met with violence. I don’t remember any of these attacks. Poor guy.
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By Rachael on Jan 22, 2010
I know multiple couples who keep his & hers blankets on the bed, jsut for this situation. Our solution is 2 blankies, and he’s under both, but I’m only under 1, so that everyone has their own space & level of warmth, but we can still be cuddled up. :)
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By Swistle on Jan 22, 2010
I love this and made Paul read it too. He recognized himself in the problems with spooning. I recognized him too.
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By Brad on Jan 23, 2010
We are two blanket people. I can not even imagine trying to sleep without it.
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By Jason R. Peters on Jan 23, 2010
We have separate beds in the same room. We face none of the problems, but since her twin and my queen are adjacent, it’s easy to roll together for weekend snuggling or hanky panky.
Sleep and sex are separate, unrelated activities. How quickly we forget.
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By Jason Doege on Jan 23, 2010
Something similar to the Superior Solution that my wife and I do is to fill the cold air space in the middle with pillows. It works for us.
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By sara on Jan 23, 2010
Heh. The whole first year my husband and I were dating, I didn’t know that he couldn’t sleep with someone touching him. Every time we slept in the same bed, basically, he wouldn’t sleep cause I’m a snuggler. Once I found out, I stopped snuggling, and we sleep as your “proposed superior solution” depicts. My husband actually sleeps at night now! Bonus: it makes snuggle time more special, imo. :)
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By Chibi Jeebs on Jan 23, 2010
I swear we share a brain or, or… something. I roll myself up like a burrito when I can. I hate the Cold Air Divide. Add to that Chebbar’s propensity to YANK all the blankets with him when he rolls over, and I’m left cold and cranky.
We tried king-sized blankets on our queen-sized bed, but that just means MORE blankets for him to steal; now, I have to bide my time a bit before I suggest buying EVEN MORE blankets so we can have our own.
I have terrible, awful, no good sleep issues which result in us sleeping separately during the week; I try in our bed on weekends, but generally end up in the office at 1am. I would L.O.V.E. separate beds in the same room: next time we need a mattress and/or we possess a bigger bedroom, we just might give this a shot.
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By romasunfire on Jan 26, 2010
I am way behind on the times here, but might I suggest the Snuggie? I need more blankets/like the spoon business, but I don’t like when someone decides that needs to lead to businesstime. The Snuggie adds an extra layer of warmth and makes my ladyflower inpenetrable. It also leopard-print, and therefore sassy.
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By Phaedra on Jan 26, 2010
Not too long after we got married, my husband and I decided on having two sets of blankets and sheets for our bed. I’m pretty sure it’s helping us stay married, especially since I can now rock my sheet, two thin blankets, electric blanket, and down comforter to his sheet and thin blanket.
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By Lawrence on Jan 27, 2010
/em grins excitedly for more sleeping arrangement drawings.
My wife and I have been together for 3 years now, and we faced much the same dilemma with a slight twist. Yes, spooning is absolutely a lot of fun, if one does not plan on sleeping. Guys cannot resist the urge to “butt-touch” and other mild forms of groping. The only question is how long was the “butt-touching” occurring before you finally woke up?
Our difficulty sleeping, other than the aforementioned spooning issues, is due to my snoring. Also, my wife prefers to sleep in an electric heating pad, space heater, multi-blanket sauna, and I prefer a single blanket and a temperature akin to something less than the surface of the sun. Due to these issues and our need to both get a good night’s sleep, we have been sleeping in separate rooms for almost the entire time we have been together. If we want some good “together” time, we just meet up in her room. It works out very well since we have learned that sleep is as important as eating, drinking, and sex. If neither one of us gets a good night’s sleep, then we end up being complete asses to each other the next day.
So by sleeping separately, we have improved all aspects of our life and removed a lot of unnecessary nastiness.
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