Comments on: Resigned to the situation

By: Delicia

Delicia — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 22:19:11 +0000

I am an extremely independent person, used to doing stuff myself. Basically what that means is that I have a really hard time *letting* my husband be responsible for doing stuff. And if he doesn’t do it RIGHT THEN I get immediately impatient and just take over and do it myself making him feel useless or hurt that I didn’t trust him to do it.

I know I’m bossy, and like things done my way, so it’s really really hard to be flexible and let him do stuff his way (if this relates to housework, his way is actually MUCH better — he’s much more of a clean-freak than I am).

I also have a tendancy to interrupt him while he’s talking. Not because what he’s saying is not interesting, or that I don’t want to hear it. It’s like my brain suddenly comes up with something that is relevant to the conversation and I just have to convey it Right This Minute or it will leave my brain and I’ll never get it back. It drives him crazy and pisses him off and I don’t even mean to do it or realize I’m doing it til it’s too late. I’m working on staying quiet til I know he’s done talking.

-Del

By: Erica

Erica — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 21:08:21 +0000

I say what I think my fiancè is thinking all the time, because he doesn’t hold up his side of the conversation. At least, I think he doesn’t, so I fill it in for him.

By: motobu

motobu — Tue, 17 Nov 2009 18:48:45 +0000

Just read your post about proper word usage, commented on it a bit snarkily.

However, I couldn’t pass this one up. It’s not FIND, its fine.

5th to last paragraph.

By: Alex

Alex — Mon, 16 Nov 2009 21:02:14 +0000

Something I have to work on for him? Literally toning it down. I tend to be very loud especially when I’m excited (and I’m easily excitable, and that’s a whole other thing I should work on). I can’t help that I have no indoor voice, but perhaps I should make an attempt to learn to use one.

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By: Shin Ae

Shin Ae — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:25:50 +0000

Also, I should spend more time folding laundry. Clean laundry takes over the house regularly. Better than dirty laundry, though.

By: Shin Ae

Shin Ae — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 15:23:19 +0000

I have massive phobias about mold and germs which lead to all kinds of protocols about how to properly do things. My husband is amazingly understanding and always just wants me to be able to feel okay about things, but I bet he’d be a whole lot happier if he didn’t have to pay as much attention to that stuff.

I do have high hopes that I will calm down about it as my general stress level goes down. I only got all freaky about things once I had kids and was pretty much sleep-deprived and stressed a lot more. I have noticed a gradual change in the germ thing as I’ve been able to get more sleep, and also I’ve been working hard on purposefully breaking some of the rules so I will see that life doesn’t end. It’s a work in progress.

But it is at times maddening to those who are close to me, I’m sure.

By: KT

KT — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 11:06:34 +0000

Ah I’m terrible about this. I’m convinced my husband thinks I’m actually mentally challenged sometimes. Like today when I went to make copies of something for him and he handed me his ID and passport and said “Now, be REALLY REALLY careful with these. Please don’t lose them!”

I was going to have them for about five minutes. :-| And also … I KNOW about how IDs are important! I’m an adult, rly!

And then when I came home and made a really sarcastic remark about overcoming my mental slowness and managing to return his important documents in one piece HE DIDN’T EVEN GET IT. Now really, who is the mentally challenged one in this situation? I do not think it is me.

By: Carrie

Carrie — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 05:52:22 +0000

Let’s see here…
I am (in no particular order) competitive, hyper-sensitive, jealous, moody, messy, and quite the homebody.

I am working on some of these things, insofar as I can figure out how to get around them myself. For example, the messy thing is mostly because I’ll intend to put something away, but get distracted and forget. So I’m trying to discipline myself to spend five minutes cleaning something every night before bed. It’s still hit or miss, but it’s better than just letting things pile up, right?

By: Mj

Mj — Sat, 14 Nov 2009 03:38:04 +0000

At least you don’t respond “why, did you fart” when she says Excuse Me…